Fiark
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Jun 9, 2007, 3:44 PM
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I am a male teacher, I have been teaching for four years and today came up against something I have never experienced. I had a male student in my class, that every now and then I feel as though they are frustrated with me because, either, they are not getting the information and poses that they would like to do or feel they need, or just generally doesn't like me.
I have not spoken to them about it, so therefore I cannot be sure if either of these things are the case.
Anyway, today toward the end of the class I gave the students an option to do a pose that they wanted to do before laying down in Savasana. Some chose shoulderstand or headstand. We had done a fairly "masculine" style class already as it was cold and I wanted to keep the students warm.
This male student decided to do shoulderstand and then followed with headstand. As he came down from headstand I went over to talk to him about the reason that we generally do shoulderstand after headstand and that some people can be a little short tempered if they do headstand as the last part of their practice and that headstands are a "masculine" pose - he cut me off before I could finish and said quite rudely and loudly "yeah alright that's enough".
I stopped talking immediately as I felt I had obviously offended him with something I said. The funny thing was, the exact thing I was trying to warn him about he verbally "attacked" me with.
I have tried to let go of my thoughts about it but now I am in a dilemma. I could feel the rest of the students look at me as if saying "are you going to let him speak to you like that".
I was trying to set the example about how to deal with a conflict of personality but I feel as though I should have said something and demanded more respect from him. I feel as though I should tell him he is no longer welcome in my class.
The real dilemma is that I believe that only peace brings peace, and that for there to be real peace from this situation I must say nothing about the incident, but then I also feel as though I cannot have a student in my class that has an obvious problem with me and has no hesitation in sharing his aggression.
I feel that part of his aggression toward me was because I gave them the option to do a pose that they wanted to do and maybe he felt I was criticising him for the choice that he made.
I would love some feedback or thoughts as I am really lost on this one.
Namaste.
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